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Permalink Reply by Bounthavy Nonginthirath on July 9, 2010 at 10:54pm

I can understand the girls from Laos or Esan marry white men or black men for the better life but i just can't understand why the lot of lao women in U-S-A went out or married black men that are the gang bangers or abuser that's i just can't understand.

RoyAL W/ Cheese said:

I agree with everyone about the girls' reasons for marring Farangs in Laos and Thailand but it seems there is just as many doing the same here in the US. I know many may argue that the girls doing this in Laos do this for superficial reasons but mainly their reason is for a better life. How do you all feel about the girls here marring Buc Damm and Buc Kao? Are their reasons any better?

Permalink Reply by RoyAL W/ Cheese on July 14, 2010 at 4:20pm

I think you understand exactly what I am hinting at. In both ways I think it's a bit of a lost to our culture and traditions but I guess that's globalization which is what the world is heading towards. I try to be open minded but I can't help to feel a bit disappointed.

Bounthavy Nonginthirath said:

I can understand the girls from Laos or Esan marry white men or black men for the better life but i just can't understand why the lot of lao women in U-S-A went out or married black men that are the gang bangers or abuser that's i just can't understand.

RoyAL W/ Cheese said:

I agree with everyone about the girls' reasons for marring Farangs in Laos and Thailand but it seems there is just as many doing the same here in the US. I know many may argue that the girls doing this in Laos do this for superficial reasons but mainly their reason is for a better life. How do you all feel about the girls here marring Buc Damm and Buc Kao? Are their reasons any better?

Permalink Reply by Philipp Tran on July 25, 2010 at 6:32am

so sad -.-

Vientiane said:

Permalink Reply by sanya on July 27, 2010 at 1:37pm

Buck Dam and Buck Kao! Man, we Laos can almost come up with any kind of names for anything. With all due respect, those Laos ladies preferred farang all because of the future.. money. Although I do believe there is some percents of pleasure which do play sometime, if they have choice I think they would not step outside the border. Imagine how sad it is to leave home and family behind. In America, there are lot of asian ladies prefers interacial marriages. Most of them are for happiness and some for fun, especially the wild one. But here is different. I think it is much easier too. The fast mouth and sweet talked always melt the ladies hearts and sweet looking ladies would died for them too.
I also feel that for Laos guys to find a Laos ladies for a soul mates for example, it is harder. If they seek pleasure only the rule is very strict. I think the opposite goes the same for Laos Ladies. Parents are worry and cannot go out at night. It always the tradition that need to be followed otherwise you cannot get any respect around the family. Farang on the other hand, get more respects if the monkey happened to be you brother in law in the family. Even if the idiot don't know shit about the wedding tradition. Those guys can break the rule and get away with it but we Laos guy must freaking keep the tradition alive and get blame for everything. It is a mentality stuffs. With the new generation, I don't even know if they ever follow the tradition anymore. I think they all breaking the rule too which propably worry their parents to death. All in all, I think what ever is good for your community, just go for it. It is ok to band a rule little bit sometime.

Permalink Reply by Vieng Chan on July 27, 2010 at 2:59pm

Money talk. In life everybody want the best and live the American dream. Good jobs, new house, new car. But divorce rate in the US is 50%.

Permalink Reply by sanya on July 28, 2010 at 5:27am

Money has always been a problem for all of us no matter what society we are living in. I agreed, high divorse rate or family falling apart all are believed to be related to financial problems. It is sad and frustrastrated. I feel my life would not be worth anything if I cannot make money.
The girl probably no interest and expect no expectation from anyone. Imagine how terrible one would feel. I understand though this is part of our society we need to fit in. It's job and money that help us earn respect. America is worst. You cannot be on your own unless you make money and if you don't have the talent they will put you behind the certain if the boss is nice enough.
It is even harder for Laos American's men. Imagine how difficult that is to find work with good pay. With small income, imagine how good will the marriage? find the happy marriage especially those came here but already too late for school, I think will be something people will have to gamble with because as an outsiders, they don't get that much opportunity. Since the sky has a limit I am not sure if I can survive myself with the knowledge I have when the time comes. It is shamed when money drives our life because in the end the people with the best job and more monies will win and there is nothing we can do to stop the rain.


Vientiane said:

Money talk. In life everybody want the best and live the American dream. Good jobs, new house, new car. But divorce rate in the US is 50%.

Permalink Reply by Vieng Chan on August 5, 2010 at 11:40am

Humane instinct. You have to do, what you have to do to survive. There is less opportunity in SE Asia, compare to Europe or US. Unless you're born with silver spoon in your mouth.

Permalink Reply by sanya on September 26, 2010 at 9:01pm

I have heard of the rumor too about interacial marriage problems between Buck dam and Sao Laos. The story I have heard must be a nightmare for those ladies who experienced them. The fail rate from what I have heard is 100% which is hopeless. In mainland, I grown up in a suburban area because my family was new to US and those people really made my family and neigbors miserable. In school one day I have to fight with buck kao because every day he likes to picked on all laos students just to impress his friends. When I got fed up with it one day I decided to solve our problems through my fists. I got hurt and he got hurt during the quarrel but after the fight was over we never bother each other again. It was terrible experience and I was not proud of my decision and what I have done because I hate violent.

Most of Laos people especially the first generation have suffered that much without any good cause but still they deserved admiration because most were heroes, patriots and royals back in their home. I could never thanks them enought in my hearts including my own father but when they came here, I feel very bad for them. Most did not have respect from no one, not even their own children. The troubles those trashes stirred up for them make their life even harder in the US. Everyone I met never said they have a happy live. Always talked about how they ran away from the tigers but now have to face the lions.
In the suburbance area, where my family and laos neigbor lives many of my Laos neighbors kids lost their teeth, broken arms or legs just by walking home from school. They were never a trouble make but buck dam and buck kaows were which broke their parents hearts. All the Laos people I know never trust them and always aware of their present. I have no respect for any of my sibling or ladies friends who must bring them into the family. If they must go against me then they can go to hell together.

casey malone said:

Well, I am from Laos originally and I married a white man. Although he is much older than I, he is not pot-bellied and, in fact, is very fit. He played college football and baseball and is still at his playing weight. Our boys are tall and athletic like him. My husband is wonderful to me, is madly in love with me and as a bonus our boys are beautiful. So, I would say to all my Lao sisters, there is nothing wrong with marrying a nice Texas man.

As for Lao girls dating blacks, I do not recc this at all. I know many Lao girls date blacks when they come here but it seldom ends well for them. They are too violent and many don't work, others go to prison. Blacks are kind of an underclass here in America most who became involved with black men have very bad experience.

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